The permanence of a situation is never forever even if it’s seems like it will last until my last breath. Living is hard but ultimately it’s what I make out of those challenges that I will find out if I will make it or break. I can say with certainty that I don’t want to break. I want to live this life with all of its ups and downs. I will admit, in all honesty, that I’m never looking forward the downs. They hurt really bad. They try to break me. The result is often like missing some pieces of me. I get eroded with time. That’s where the good days come to play. They are rebuilding and I can take that time to make myself stronger. Both are needed to get myself better. It’s a lifetime of lessons to learn and unlearn. A survival strategy that served me well at one point might become obsolete as I get stronger. I may need to ditch the some crutches and some braces along the way. I may also need to find better fitted ones along the way to support me in the way I need at the time.
There’s no right or wrong answers to this life. I need to stay true to myself no matter what. I am all I got. All I can do is the best I can with the knowledge I have at the time. Becoming strong was a learn behavior. I certainly wasn’t born that way. I will admit that I once was very temperamental and would seek solitude to avoid the wrath of living. I have now ditch the self pity way of being. It’s so easy to ask “why me?”. The right answer is that if this is happening it’s certainly because something got to change. I can’t stay in the same way forever. I need to be in constant motion. Just like a bicycle, I need to keep moving in order to keep my balance. I am grateful to have achieve a level of independence and self sufficience. There’s days where I would like to lower my level of hyper independency but until I can figure out a way out of it it will have to suffice. It’s the current brace I need at this time.
I am currently resisting a change. I may have attained a level of complacency that need change. I can feel the movement. I want that movement but I am also scared. I have worked too hard to get where I am to stop the train and bail out of my adventure. What would be the point anyways? Just to try to live a recluse life with nothing. To keep most of the troubles away. How boring would this be. I know that life as a way of throwing curved ball at the least expected moment. Nothing is permanent, tomorrow everything could be changed. I can count on that change to bring me what I need at the present moment. It might not be what I want but it’s what I need. Some days it’s all smiles, happy moments and another it’s holding back tears and a broken heart.
I’m training myself to see my worth, my talent and my wit. Training to not give in others expectations of me. To know that I am special in my very own way and that I need to stay who I am despite others wanting to change me. My needs are real and I can voice my need to have them filled. I won’t settle no more to the pressure of supressing my needs in order to please others. I owe it to myself to stand tall and strong for who I am. I can continue to help others but it can’t no longer be detrimental to myself. This narrative it so new to me that I have an hard time sticking to it. I still feel guilt after I stand up for myself. I brace for rejection, for hate. I have found that it’s not always welcomed with certain people and well received with others. There’s no pleasing of everyone. I have found that in the process of trying to please everyone I loose myself. I’m destroying my worth. I am working on not trying to show my value to those who don’t want to see it. There’s no point in trying to convince others of it. If they can’t see it there’s no need to show them at all cost. They are blind to it. Whatever the reason that they chose not to see what is in front of them is on them. I have nothing to do with it. Fortunately there are those who see it and it’s important to connect with them. The hyper independency needs to be curb down at times and welcome those time where someone see my worth and is supportive.
As much as life is not all rainbows and unicorns, it’s also not all grim and gloomy. Everything has it’s seasons. I am making a conscious effort to see the presents that life is giving me in the better or worst times. It’s not an easy feat in the dark times but it does help to make life worth living. Then I can keep hoping and have faith that the sun will shine again because nothing grows without rain. There’s a need for days and nights. Today I choose to believe that my future is bigger than I can expect. Some days I feel like I got my heart ripped out of my chest. Devastation may fills my soul. I take solace in knowing that those feelings are only temporary. I am longing to find someone to go home to but I can certainly be my home for now. I have build a fortress with what is dear to me. They are my foundations and they are solid. The rest will come. I have no real plans on how exactly my home should be built just a dream. I can make things up as I go with trials and errors. There’s no right ways as I learn. If there’s wasn’t for trials and errors I wouldn’t know what it better for me. My foundations are what is keeping the dream alive. I am working hard to make it happen. I know I will find the people that I need to teach me or help me build my dreams.
I’m currently working on starting trusting again. It’s one of the hardest thing I have considered doing. I often feel that there’s only myself I can trust. I have learned that I can’t count on solely myself to make my dreams real. I need to find reliable people to help me along the way. Finding them is been the hard part. So many will promise you to be there for you. At the end they don’t show up. They don’t keep their words. I am learning to forgive them. I understand that there are circumstances but they now go on the “not to be trusted” list a little faster than before. I am thinning my list of trusted people. People come and go in my life and I need to accept it the way it is. Acceptance is a hard thing for me. I wish I could have my way. It’s not way it works. I have to have faith that things are going to work out for me. I wish I could dictate the way things will be for me but it’s better it’s not. That would be too easy. As much as I despise surprises, it’s anxiety driving, it’s better for me that things are not planned. It makes me face my fears and insecurities. It helps me work on myself and find the better in me.
Every situation has an end. I must keep my focus on this. I need insure that my better times are well engraved in my memory in order to better get through my hard days. All the messages I receive as of late seems to be an omen urging me to keep going. That it’s not the end. I must peruse my goals and dreams. To be strong about my convictions. To be persistent about my needs and boundaries. I am a strong individual that have a very good idea of where I am going and what I want out of this life. I have made the conscious decision of not being a mat for anyone anymore. This last one is proving to be a difficult one to abide by but with time and patience on my part I am bound to succeed this endeavour. Mistakes will be made, I know this, but there’s no success without trying. I will try until my last breath, even if I take some breaks to gather my thoughts and take a deep breath, I will keep trying to better my life and learning lesson to improve myself. I am worth it!