Beside my first cup of coffee in the morning, my second favorite part of the day is bed time. I find it like a reset button. It’s my time to recap my day, do my gratitude list and fall deeply asleep. It’s a positive time and I avoid recapping my woes of the day. It’s all about finding the positives and the beautiful in each day. This change in my night routine has allowed me to spend restful nights and wake up refreshed and ready to take on the new day, this new chance at living meaningfuly.
All nights are not graced with the most peaceful sleep. Some are bound to be filled with nightmares and sorrows. I used to take those nights very badly. They would destroy my peace for the day and I would spend the day ruminating about it and why I couldn’t just get at least a good rest. Well, it’s like living, it can’t always be rainbows and unicorns. I think I would be massively depressed without the ups and downs of life. Without the harder times, I can’t really feel the good days. They all get blurred up into this one pile and there’s no real difference between them. It wouldn’t be happiness it would just be mindless living. I think it would be even worst then having to work for the growth I need to to do on a daily basis in order to overcome obstacles.
Last night was one of those that send me almost crying as I woke up. The anxiety felt unreal, it was poignant. I had woken up from a stressful night. I had somewhat anticipated it. Considering the changes that have been happening in my life it was bound to happen. In my case, it doesn’t matter the kind of changes. Be they be positive, negative or neutrals, they all cause some raising anxiety in me. It mostly happen in my sleep. I have gotten quite good at repressing the day to day anxiety. Years of practice at handling the daily challenges without falling apart so I can continue working and earning a living have worked but get me very tired. That anxiety have found a way to express itself and it’s through dreaming where I loose all control of my emotions. The weirdest dreams came about lately and I knew what was to come. I find myself to have created a good self awareness and finding patterns in my behavior so I can sorta predict what’s to come and make moves accordingly when the time comes.
One thing that I was surprised to find as I was savouring my first cuppa was the tears that came close to fall down my cheeks. That was a happy moment since I haven’t been able to shed one little drop of this salty water in over a year just as if I had ran out. I now know that they are there, it’s just a matter of time before they resurface. I just need to continue on my journey of honoring myself and becoming the best I can be. A life long journey that I’m mostly excited to take on. I’m working hard to be at peace with the fears I used to have. The defence I had to build up to protect myself, the disappointments that were so crushing. Although my anxiety level was pretty high this morning and I just wanted to stay in bed, I got up and made the decision to figure out where this is coming from and then work on it. I made the decision to not let this define my day because I currently have so much to look forward to.
My attitude and behavior have been the best it as been in over a decade. I have found joy and have been able to let go of so much it’s been so liberating. I have gained back a part of the strong person I used to be. I have been able to be vulnerable without feeling weak. I have been able to speak out and tell the things the were they really were without the guilt. I have regain a lot of confidence. I’m sure glad I believe in myself and that with the help of my support circle I am able to reconnect with my true self without feeling any negativity. My self acceptance is growing by the day and I’m able to let my shine express itself for the world to see. I haven’t felt this warm inside on years. It feels liberating and I’m embracing this new found state of mind.
This morning reflection brought me to find peace again. I do not need to feed my anxiety all day long. I just need to acknowledge it, think about it for a little while to discover the source of it and then move on. I refuse to let it dictate my day. I choose to find other ways to brighten it. I’m very grateful that trouble found me. I’m glad because I was able to reflect on it and manage to stay calm, feel the feeling and gently tame it. These need to happen and they need to continue their teachings. My growth depend on them to show up to better myself. Life is a procession of events that I can’t control and they are bound to bring some of my short comings to life. Those can’t stay indefinitely repressed. They need their time to express themselves and be resolved. Sometimes too many situation happen at the same time but ultimately it’s how one handles all of them on a linear way instead of mountain way that will dictate the way those challenges will be handle. My father have been repeating this to me for so many years and it took me so long to understand it and applying it. It was a bit of wisdom from someone that cares about me that I needed to retain. Messages like this can come in the most surprising way. I need to be aware of them and take them and then study them as much as possible in order to apply them to my life.
Living day by day is still quite the hardship for me. I want to let go of the what ifs and I should of. The lack of control of the future is still causing stress. I’m trying hard to let things happen and to surrender to the beautiful or not so nice surprises that life can bring me. I want to have faith that I will be ok and that things will work out at the end. They always seems to find their way. All the years of survival and fighting against my lack of control have taken me a bit behind in my learning but I won’t give up. It’s never too late. I just need to keep practicing and it I will own my newfound skills and it will seems easy and natural at some point. I’m not going to give up on myself anymore.
Now I need to go reflect and go smell the horses.